Don’t forget to breathe…
Of all the advice I heard before the wedding, the hardest to follow was, “Don’t forget to breathe, it goes by too fast.” I thought, “I’ve done lots of events, I’ve hosted all kinds of parties, I’ve pulled them all off and I remembered every bit of them.”
Boy, were they right. And holy goodness, how I was not prepared. “Whirlwind” doesn’t even begin to describe it – not only that, but you don’t realize how many people want your attention and want you to do things for them (pose for photos, talk to someone, walk over here, smile over there, dance with an in-law). When you throw a party, people do their own thing for the most part. They socialize, they drink/eat/dance/etc and quite often they don’t need or want your attention. When you throw a wedding, it really is all about you and your honey.
So my advice to you, now that I know how much (or how little…) of that day that I remember: Don’t forget to breathe. Don’t forget to kiss your honey – not just when a camera is pointed at you. Don’t forget to smile, even if you’re overwhelmed. The people who are guests at your wedding want the day to be magic FOR YOU, even your soon-to-be-in-laws. And don’t forget to check in with your bridal party and your vendors. They are going to know what needs to happen next, if something needs your attention, or (hopefully) if everything is perfect.
That said –
Don’t forget that your girls are your backbone…
Most brides pick their bridal party because they are the people closest to them. Don’t forget that they are there to smooth out any rough patches, to help keep you smiling, and to help keep the day about you and your honey. There will be hiccups. There always are. But after it’s all over, if you have a good team of people by your side, all the things that happened will be stories for you to look back at and laugh about some other day.
Don’t forget that most people (guys) don’t know how to throw a wedding…
The bride is under an unbelievable amount of stress leading up to and day-of the wedding. Your girls might understand, if they are married. But the guys, the unmarried girls, and some people in general just won’t understand. Take that fact and let it calm you down when you’re about to take something personally. It might be that they have no idea how much something costs, how long something takes to make, or how involved your family is. And that’s ok, because it’s not their wedding. So instead of jumping to being mad, make sure that you take the time to explain what’s going on in your head first. Most people aren’t trying to be difficult on purpose and a little bit of knowledge can go a long way.
Sarah is our new Wedding Wednesday blogger. She is one of our fabulous giver brides from 2012 who walked into Get Hitched Give Hope with the intent on getting married in Jamaica in 2014, and walked out with packages and vendors she fell in love with, and a new plan for a fall 2013 Seattle wedding. Sarah will be bringing us thoughts on the wedding industry and wedding planning from the perspective of a bride who isn’t the traditional “been dreaming of my wedding since I was five” type of girl.