There is this impression that grooms just show up to the wedding, put on a suit/tux, get the person of their dreams, and walk out a happier man. Quite often brides are left with the impression that they should shoulder all of the work and that the groom doesn’t need or want to know what’s going on.
You might be surprised (or not) that sometimes the groom DOES want to be involved. Cake tastings? Beer or wine tastings?? Food tastings??? How could he possibly want to miss those? He might even have fun with some of the smaller decisions, making the event a joint project. My honey had certain things he cared about and certain things he didn’t but we talked about each as they came up and I let him vote in or out of being involved.
Some grooms, on the other hand, might like it the old fashioned way. I think that asking them to be involved will help them to understand the budget, the stress, and the process. “It costs how much??” isn’t so shocking if he sees all of the options and why you want to pick the certain design or vendor that you love.
There are so many ways to make wedding decisions. Let your love for each other help put the event together and help keep the stress to a manageable level. Your vendors will appreciate that you are both on the same page and your families will hopefully understand that the event is part of the team-building process that couples have to go through.
Sarah is our new Wedding Wednesday blogger. She is one of our fabulous giver brides from 2012 who walked into Get Hitched Give Hope with the intent on getting married in Jamaica in 2014, and walked out with packages and vendors she fell in love with, and a new plan for a fall 2013 Seattle wedding. Sarah will be bringing us thoughts on the wedding industry and wedding planning from the perspective of a bride who isn’t the traditional “been dreaming of my wedding since I was five” type of girl.
photo by Barbie Hull